Relationship advice; Is this guy just playing with my emotions?
Topic: Ups jobs application positions available positions
July 24, 2019 / By Jonna Question:
My boyfriend is 31 and I'm 28. We've been together a little over a year and living together almost as long. Lately things have been sour. He said that he just didn't really feel anything for me anymore and he felt trapped. So I sent applications for jobs in another state and informed him that as soon as a position becomes available I will leave, hopefully in the next couple of weeks. Two days after this he tells me that he loves me and doesn't want me to move out, yet he's offered no other sign of the relationship moving forward and still feels uncomfortable with me flying up with him to meet his 6 year old son. So, do I go ahead and take the job and go or continue to stay?
Best Answers: Relationship advice; Is this guy just playing with my emotions?
Genie | 9 days ago
If this is the nature of his behavior, what makes you think you're on solid ground?
EVENTUALLY, the relationship WILL end (unless you get married and live happily ever after like in the fairy tales).
If he is already emotionally unstable, and doesn't know what he wants - end it NOW, for a better tomorrow.
The problem is fear. People would rather remain in a broken relationship, enduring the treacherous storms therein, than face the uncertainty and sadness of being singe.
You would rather stay in the torment of this familiar setting, than venture out into uncharted territory.
What if you never find the right guy after this? What if you stay single until you become old? What if this is your ONLY chance, and leaving him would blow it? What if you never find something better?
These questions must be running through your mind with vigor, impairing your ability to think rationally and logically (of which preside above sentimentality).
Those questions are webs of falsehoods, spinning a foul recipe for personal ruin.
REMEMBER, love is a mental illness. http://online.wsj.com/public/article/SB1...
Take the job and go.
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