Why am I so angry and is this normal?
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July 24, 2019 / By Charlton Question:
sorry this is long, bear with me!
I dunno, but i am assuming i have some kind of inferiority complex. My parents have always thought of me as a "bright" child, and used to make me do math problems for TWO hours when i was 7 years old so i could be ahead of my class. we did almost nothing but educational related stuff, and even my aunt told my mom that i would "burn out" by middle school. in 7th grade, my grades started slipping, and by freshman year i was failing a class (then i became suicidal)! now i am in one support class and all my other classes are regular (as oppossed to honors/AP level). I am now a junior in high school, and 8th grade was the ONLY year of my life where i had a solid group of friends. it was so wonderful. But OF COURSE freshman year, those f****cking b***chs dumped me! That summer, i was backstabbed by some other chicks at sleepaway camp. Then, after the summer ended i went on their facebooks/myspaces and they were talking trash about me/ brutally making fun of me. some girl who was nice to me gave me her junk email & was laughing about it on f****cking myspace! i feel like a worthless piece of sh***t. i have been sexually harassed at school, and have not been invited to ONE sweet sixteen (when literally the whole grade was invited to a few, no joke!). I have no group of friends, and the only party that i went to in high school was one that i crashed. I was diagnosed w/ bipolar and OCD, and my psychiatrist (who we are switching) falls asleep when i talk to him. I am on some sh***ty mood stabolizer that made me gain f***cking 15lbs, and now i am sooo fat! even b4 these meds no matter what i did i would NEVER loose weight, and i feel so unglamorous next to those skinny b**tchs who eat bolognea sandwiches and 5 cookies and are f**cking toothpicks! i also have kinky hair (i do not know ANY caucasion woman with hair like mine). I do not mean beautifully curly, but WOOLY and KINKY! i feel like i cant have the fun that a teenage girl can have due to my weight (like roaming around in a bikini), hair (like making cute, new hairstyles), and the fact that i do not have any friends that give me the time of day! I feel like my mother always talks about other girls by saying how wonderful they are (and i feel like she wants me to be like them but she denies that). my father idolizes ppl who are in perfect physical shape w/ high paying professional jobs (and he wants his little girl to be that way 2). i curse a lot under my breath, and frequently smack walls. I am so resentful, and feel i have a RIGHT to be angry b/c of the way ppl have treated me! my dad has a friend who has a daughter who is a BIG TIME volleyball player, she is gorgeous, has perfect hair/style, has a f****cking 6 pack, gets honor roll every time in all HONORS classes, and is a fabulous artist! she is friends w/ me on facebook, and gets at least 12 wall posts everyday (usually if i write on somebodys wall they never even write baq)! ppl are constantly complimenting her photos and saying how beautiful she is. its nauseating. i know despite all those wonderful things she has, she is probably insecure in some ways & has troubles, but look at me! a few family members say i loathe in self-pity, but i have a legit reason to. I have been ridiculed, spat out & rejected and i am NATURALLY fat and have yucky hair. believe me, i only complain to my parents, counselors, and my closest family member for advice. i do not complain to my peers, but somehow they dont give 2 flying f***cks about me.
i am VERY sensitive to criticism.
Best Answers: Why am I so angry and is this normal?
Alven | 2 days ago
wow, that really sucks. high school girls can be a bunch of bitches. anyways, here's some advice for you:
try to stop being so angry. in the end, it only hurts you, not the ones you're angry at. they could give a **** less about how you feel. also, being angry and bitter will keep decent people away from you so you'll always be lonely if you don't get it under control. yeah, you have a right to be pissed off, but walking around all surly and pissy and all "life sucks and the world sucks and everything sucks!" isn't going to endear you to anyone, even people who might otherwise be sympathetic.
make some guy friends, i've found that they're a lot more loyal than girl friends are.
i know you can't be the only outcast at your school. go make friends with your fellow outcasts. there is strength in numbers, and other outcasts know how you feel. they are, for the most part, good kids who haven't been given a chance socially.
if you're fat, go exercise. eat healthy foods, keep it around 1500 calories a day. burn off more calories than you consume. if you still don't thin out, talk to your new psychiatrist about switching mood stabilizers.
there are a million different products specifically for kinky, frizzy hair that you can use to fix your hair. invest in a flat iron. find a cut that flatters your features. use some of the products they make for black hair.
myspace and facebook are NOT real life, no matter what some people think. bitches are always going to talk **** and there's nothing you can do about it, but you don't have to read what they write. it only upsets you needlessly. delete your accounts if necessary.
oh, and be careful smacking walls; you could break your hand.
high school isn't forever, and all those girls who are busy trying to make your life hell will either wake up one day and realize what miserable wretches they've been-or they won't, and they'll end up leading crappy lives and never realizing why. so take comfort in that. hang in there, and good luck.
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(1) Yes, absolutely. this is the whole point. Exercise and diet reduces your insulin levels (the root cause of your problems). With insulin controlled, your ovaries are starting (JUST STARTING) to work properly. And that can send your hormones into a bit of a wobble (hence the bleeding). Give your body time to settle into a normal cycle. My girlfriend (who has PCOS) ate soba noodles (japanese noodles made from buckwheat, rich in d chiro inositol, this also reduces insulin), she had a period the next day (it wasn't due for 2 weeks).
(2) I think you should continue taking the pills. Your period will stop when its ready (not necessarily straight away) and will have shed your lining. But remember that diet and exercise are your main weapons, BC pills have some benefits but don't solve the root cause. So long term, I am less sure whether it is beneficial, it depends on your case.
(3) Many women with PCOS return to a normal cycle with meds like BC pills or metformin (an anti insulin drug). Some can achieve the same thing without BC pills (ie through diet and exercise). Obviously the latter is better than the former, but PCOS comes is various degrees and various sub-types. So you cannot draw simple conclusions from other PCOS sufferers. Just focus on yourself and what works with you.
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(1) eat a carb free diet, or if not, a low glycemic index diet.
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(3) exercise regularly.
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oh u poor baby! I am so sorry all this is happening to you! Its tough to be in high school, wasnt a great experience for me either and I can relate to your feeling so very alone. I know this is a reach, but is there another high school you could transfer to? Maybe a new start, even though you are a junior, would be just what you need. To start over in a new environment will be tough but any tougher than what you are going through now? If this is something you are considering and is possible, be diligent and dont let other people sway you into changing your mind. Also, I would see if there were some teen support group nearby that is specifically for teens. You probably will find you are not alone, though it feels that way. Ask a trusted adult to help you, maybe your guidance counselor or dean? They would be the best resource to find a group that could be helpful. And then maybe you can develop a new circle of friends and leave the losers who have been tormenting you far behind. Hang in there darlin, u are in my prayers.
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I find anger is about fear. You have fear. Fear can be a good thing. It helps you. There has to be a balance in your life. Parents can either respond to their responsibility in a positive way and they will always mess up. A heavenly Father does not mess up. So don't feel so alone. Many times growing up you go through periods of crappy stuff and people. Relationships with girls can be so fearful. Often times girls feel camaraderie by taking it out on another girl. They really fear each others criticism because that is what they do together. What is the answer for you? I think you answered your own question. Build self confidence. Volunteer. You will meet people who have greater needs and you will meet the most awesome people to be friends with. You can use the excuse to your parents that to apply to college you must have so many hours of volunteer work. They can't deny that. You will also build upon "doing good" which has this curious way of coming back to you. Forget all this stuff...Love the body you have and make the most of your looks. Concentrate on the accessories that most girls don't have. You will be a stand out! Be thankful for the wondrous body you have. Be beautiful and you will. This is a painful time for you.
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Whoa. Well, lot's of it I went through myself but you've got me beat by a long shot. It's hard dealing with other people and it's hard not to have others affect us. Your going to have to learn to ignore a whole lot (I know it's easier said than done). If you have to stop going on myspace/facebook for your own sanity, that's what you may have to do to keep some of your sanity. I know most people want to know what others say but is it really worth the heartache? High school is tough, girls are [email protected]
on the most part. Believe me when I say that all you are going through will toughen you up so when you get to be an adult you will be able to handle most anything. If you are OCD and bipolar you will have a rougher road ahead. Most professionals won't diagnose someone under 18 with those conditions. Sounds like you have great anxiety and pressure. Don't label yourself and please don't compare yourself to others. If you don't like your kinky hair, can you get a hair straightener if it would make you feel better about that? Do things that are for you, who you are and damn the rest to hell. Take care okay?
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What is wrong with being angry? Go ahead, get p!$$ed off! It's normal. The wealthy and the government just want to have everybody complacent so that they can enjoy the status quo. The world sucks for you and you need to do something about it. Go ahead- get mad. Go bust a few heads today. The priests ask everyone to forgive and all that BS and behind every one's back they are off raping boys. Now go find a skinny girl and kick her butt. You are bigger than her and I'll bet you could but a dent in her ribcage that could mess up that bimbo's breathing for a week. How much longer are you going to let those string beans push you around? Go show those hosebags who's boss. The next time those girls spit it will be their own teeth and blood.
Whining and complaining is for wimps. Action speaks louder than words. Do it! Go kick some butt!
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Originally Answered: Would you be angry about this?
Hi there Rebekah. And sorry to hear about the situation you are in. It sounds very familiar to what my husband goes Thur with his brother minus the age difference. I deal with this too on a smaller scale with my sister. There are 13 years between she and I. We both get gifts from mom, but she always gets the better. I normally don't say anything. I guess its not my nature unless its hurting someone else I love.
In your case I think I would have to say something. I don't think its about the gifts or money with you. I have answered back and forth with you so much I think I know what you are trying to say. It's the idea. And it hurts. He is thinking about his 'new' family and not about you or your loved ones. He is hurting you and your loved ones. IF he could not afford it, thats one thing. But to give to others and not you/your loved ones is rude. Tell him you are hurt by this. Explain to him that its not the gifts you care about, but the idea that your family doesn't seem as important as his new family and this shows by his words and actions. If nothing comes of your talk with him and he doesn't seem to still care take a 'dad break'... Don't call for a while... don't go around for a bit. Maybe he will think then about the fact that he did hurt you?
I don't know... Just a suggestion. I take 'dad breaks' occasionally. It always works out. Good luck to you!!
P.S. One day late (wink ;) Think lots of baby dust for me... I will think good thoughts for you and your family, as always.