Originally Answered: Why am I angry?
Some things to think about:
1. You could have a chemical imbalance in the brain, or you could have a hormonal balance, two very different things but both can affect your mood. Make an appointment with your family physician and discuss this with them so that they can better assess what is going on with you. They can take blood to test your hormonal levels, as well as the overall function of your other organs. If it is a chemical imbalance in the brain, they may prescribe medication to calm you like an antidepressant, for example.
2. You may also be simply undergoing a tremendous amount of stress and change in your life and this is making you more prone to anger. Maybe things are not going your way as much as you like, and so you feel frustrated about it. Or perhaps you are not sure where you are going in your life, especially when you compare yourself to your peers. It could be any number of things, so if it is troubling you perhaps you could find a counselor to help you sort out your issues. Talking to someone who is objective (and not a family member or a friend) really helps us to sort out our problems and figure things out.
There is always a root cause to anger, however. Depression, frustration and disappointment lead us in that direction and it is hard to pull out of it at times, especially when we have tried hard to pull ourselves out of that space. Believe me I have been there at times and it is very hard to deal with. Some things I learned in life may help:
1. Anger affects your overall body functions and puts stress on its systems, such as your heart and your immune system. The more angry you get the more you are setting the stage for illness. We don't think about this when we are young because we think we are invincible, but this is not the case. Our bodies are sensitive instruments and our moods will affect how it operates.
2. Perpetual anger affects our self esteem. Simply put, the more anger you have the more likely you are to have low self esteem. It becomes a perpetual cycle from which you can't escape, unless you address the root cause.
3. Anger affects our relationships. We all get angry from time to time, but if we are constantly in that space people will withdraw from you. If you are blaming others for your problems or screaming at them for the slightest thing, people will come to fear you.
4. If your anger is so intense and obsessional (as in thinking about it all day) perhaps you might consider working it through in an anger management forum so you learn how to control it.
It is important to understand that anger is a normal emotion unless it gets out of control and begins to affect all areas of your life: work, family, school, etc. There are always going to be days when things don't necessarily go our way, or days when people really piss us off or when the slightest thing sets us off, like the cat or dog peeing on the floor. Things happen. But investing your energy in constant anger will only distract you from the important things in life - your family, your job, school, your relationships - and it is simply not worth it. Why? Because life is too short and investing in this is a waste of your life energy.
Try distracting yourself when you feel this way. Take a walk as a way to start exercising. Exercising raises the endorphin levels in the brain, and this definitely elevates our moods. Think about the positive things in life that you have achieved, as well as the things you enjoy in life, however simplistic they are. Watch your favorite silly movie, or read a good book. Realize that these things do pass and there is always tomorrow. Usually tomorrow is usually a lot better than yesterday.