Do I have the right to be angry?
Topic: Never doing homework pictures
July 24, 2019 / By Matilda Question:
My sister met this guy about a year ago. His name is Tim. He used to be a crack dealer and has a REAL shady past. But ever since they've been together, he claims to be "changed."
Now they're married with a baby in my parents' small 2 bedroom apartment. I sleep in the living room.
Tim really mooches off my parents...My mom and dad have spent at least two thousand dollars on him. They love him because they think he makes my sister happy.
Tim and my sister both have AWFUL tempers. At one point, it got physical while she was even pregnant.
Now, even in front of the baby, they fight like maniacs. And every time they do, my heart races, my stomach drops, and I keep my cellphone on hand in case anything happens again.
Now my sister sleeps ALL DAY and makes my mom or dad take the baby. I even tried to tell her, part of the process of being a parent is that you can't THINK OF YOURSELF ANYMORE. I'm fourteen. She complains about how tired she is and makes me take care of the baby which I don't mind. And when I'm too busy, she thinks I don't "love him." I often think that if she can't take care of the baby, don't get pregnant!
She and her husband take up so much space in the house. I don't even have a place to do my homework, which is why I often go outside. Her husband has a job yet he spends his money on video games and PS3s, rather than saving it up for their own place.
Everytime they fight, he leaves but comes back the next day. I've tried talking to her about this but she just gets mad and tells me to mind my own business. It IS my business when I have to sleep on the floor! To make matters worse, she chooses her HUSBAND over her own little sister! She never hangs out with me. She only goes to the movies with Tim and only takes pictures with him.
It's driving me nuts. Help.
Best Answers: Do I have the right to be angry?
Lark | 10 days ago
Your a 14 year old girl, sleeping on the floor. You have a right to be angry. However, there really isn't much you can do, actually as far as I'm concerned there's nothing you can do.
You can try talking to your parents about it...
other than that, until your sister and her husband move out.. Your pretty much screwed "/ Sorry.
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Originally Answered: I am so angry right now?
As the parent of a 17 year old daughter my first question is how well do your parents know the people you would be going with? It is hard for parents to come to grips with the idea of their daughter (or son) going so far away with someone they don't know well or are not sure about.
You have a well thought out question and if you were to approach your parent(s) in a mature way at a less stress time and present your case , as it were, much as you did on here, explaining how you would cover your school work etc., you may at least get them to listen to you.
Ask your prospective to host(s) to meet your parents in a pleasant, low key way. No pressure, just a friendly meeting.
I hope you have a Merry Christmas..
You can be angry, but that only hurts you.
Sleeping on the floor isn't bad. My 20 year old son has a bed and chooses to sleep on the floor. As long as you are warm enough. Do you have a radio or CD player with a headset or earphones? That may obscure some of the fighting and give you some peace.
Your parents are responsible for this house and for letting your sister live there. There really isn't anything you can do about it that you aren't already doing. This is a bad scene, but in 4 more years you will be old enough to get a job and move out. That isn't fair to you, but then you won't have to deal with this. I'm glad you are wise enough to go out to do your homework. Keep it up, as that will be your ticket to a good job. Then, it's not easy, but you can put yourself through college if you really want to. Start with a Community College so it's not too expensive, and only go part time until you get at least an AA degree.
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Happiness is an attitude to life that you must always keep in mind. It is much more than an emotion or feeling. To be truly happy, it is very easy; just follow these steps
Remember that nothing they can say should hurt you. You decide if you want to be hurt.
You are the owner of your life. You should not depend on anyone emotionally.
Remember that life is simple, but we humans make it complicated.
It is not about having the best home, or the latest phone model, it's about being happy with yourself.
Do what you please, but without hurting others.
Start by enjoying the most trivial pleasures, like a delicious snack or a good movie
Let us fight for a better life without feeling self-defeated.
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Originally Answered: Would you be angry about this?
Hi there Rebekah. And sorry to hear about the situation you are in. It sounds very familiar to what my husband goes Thur with his brother minus the age difference. I deal with this too on a smaller scale with my sister. There are 13 years between she and I. We both get gifts from mom, but she always gets the better. I normally don't say anything. I guess its not my nature unless its hurting someone else I love.
In your case I think I would have to say something. I don't think its about the gifts or money with you. I have answered back and forth with you so much I think I know what you are trying to say. It's the idea. And it hurts. He is thinking about his 'new' family and not about you or your loved ones. He is hurting you and your loved ones. IF he could not afford it, thats one thing. But to give to others and not you/your loved ones is rude. Tell him you are hurt by this. Explain to him that its not the gifts you care about, but the idea that your family doesn't seem as important as his new family and this shows by his words and actions. If nothing comes of your talk with him and he doesn't seem to still care take a 'dad break'... Don't call for a while... don't go around for a bit. Maybe he will think then about the fact that he did hurt you?
I don't know... Just a suggestion. I take 'dad breaks' occasionally. It always works out. Good luck to you!!
P.S. One day late (wink ;) Think lots of baby dust for me... I will think good thoughts for you and your family, as always.