My girlfriend is angry with me because I'm not attracted to her.?
Topic: Case she's not your friend
July 24, 2019 / By Rosie Question:
Long story short -
I was in a relationship that ended badly and my closest friend for years was very sympathetic. She really appreciated me, and I felt extremely rejected at the time. She was eager to start a relationship with me, so I decided I would even though I wasn't really attracted to her. I haven't regretted that, because she's the only girlfriend I've ever had who really loves me.
That was two years ago. Life dealt us some harsh circumstances and we were forced to move in together to make ends meet. We've lived together for nearly a year now and it is not going well. The problem is, she is a very sexual person and no matter how hard I try I still am not attracted to her. She wants to have sex all the time, and she nags me about it all day long... For a while I took to drinking heavy all the time because it was the only way I could have sex with her. The problem is only escalating because she harps at me about it no less than five times a day and gets really, really angry when I don't seem enthusiastic about her advances. Its worsened even more too, because I just launched a business which takes almost all my time and energy.
It's really bad, and I'm not sure what to do. I love her and would be OK with spending my entire life with her. But she'll never be happy unless I'm sexually into her. I don't know what to do. =(
Best Answers: My girlfriend is angry with me because I'm not attracted to her.?
Myrtle | 3 days ago
It's true, maybe you do really love and care for her.
However, maybe it stays only on the friendship level and that is why you do not see yourself attracted to her in that way.
In normal circumstances, family members (such as parents to children) aren't attracted to each other in that way, yet there is an extreme love there and bond. Love can occur without attraction, but the relation dynamics are totally different, see?
This might be a similar case. You love her. You care for her. The relationship isn't on a husband-wife intimacy level. Perhaps it is merely a friendship one, on your behalf. Perhaps you'll consider moving on from this relationship and finding everything you need (in a romantic relationship) and letting her find what she needs. Otherwise, you two will both be lacking.
It would be good to find yourself a girl you are friends with, but also are intimately attracted to in that way. You'd have the best of all possible worlds.
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Originally Answered: How do some guys make girls attracted to them? How do they get a girlfriend?seems so easy?
Not all girls are the same. Some girls like the big athletic guys (the ones in football, baseball, etc) others like the brainy guys the ones that help them with their homework and stuff. Others are really into shy guys, while others are into loud guys. It is really hard to say "oh all girls will like you if you do this".
The best thing you can do is be honest, respectful towards them, but most importantly is be yourself. No girl likes to date a fake guy.
Personally I hate when guys make themselves look like they own the world. Like they can do anything they want whenever they want, they make themselves look stupid.
Also, don't stress too much about it. If you do you'll make yourself look too desperate and that will not be good for you. You are still young, you have plenty of time. Don't worry things will fall into place sooner or later. Sometimes sooner and sometimes later, but they will.
You're being really unfair to this girl. It sounds like you want to keep her on because it's comfortable and you enjoy her company. It also sounds like one of the main reasons you are with her is because she loves you and you know if someone gets hurt it won't be you this time. You started and continued this relationship for all of the wrong reasons and you need to end it now. If you really care about this girl as a person at all you will do her a favor and end things before she gets hurt even worse. Definitely don't tell her that you don't find her physically attractive, that would devastate her, but you need to end it. If she is a highly sexual person, the sex is always going to be an issue and she's going to figure it out eventually if she hasn't started to already.
Sure, it will be hard to end it but it's better for both of you in the long run.
I know that it's easier sometimes to settle and just be in a comfortable relationship rather than be alone or risk being hurt again but it's not right when one of the people is really sincere.
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well...if you are not attracted to her, I don't know how you can spend the rest of your life with her. No doubt you love her, but it sound like you are more afraid of breaking her heart then you are in love with her. Actually sounds like you still love her as a friend and nothing more. As hard as it may seem or be you guys need to do some serious talking about where to take this relationship. If you are this tired of her nagging right now, wonder how that's gonna be for the rest of your life.
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OK now this one is crazy. First off why aren't you attracted to her? Second off why did you allow yourself to be in the position that you are in. Be a man and either get over that fact and be appreciative to the fact that you have some one that's loves you back or just end it. Come on dude this is some crap that you would hear from a woman on the Tyra Banks show. If you love her get over it and be with her but if you don't move on and don't look back.
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How do you love her if your not attracted to her? and i think that if she always wanna be attracting that sort of stuff and u don't like you should tell her that and if she still nags u about it, then maybe it's time for you to move on in life and find someone you really love and are attracted to. she can't control your life u know?
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Originally Answered: Is my dad.attracted to me?
Whoa. Well, sweetie - I know he is your dad - or well Biological dad. Just because he was the one who go t Your mom pregnant with you , but then left, doesn't mean hes really a dad to you. And the fact that he was gone for all those years proves that. A dad is someone who helped raise you and has taught you things as you grew up, etc. And go with your gut feeling - plus a woman knows when a guy is looking at her in those ways (sexual thoughts, etc)
From what you described, NO- THIS IS NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOR- in my opinion that a father should have with his daughter. Those comments about spanking are VERY INAPPROPRIATE to say to your child in the way he said it to you. I would be very careful, he might have thatmindsett where he sees you as a young lady/woman b/c he was never there to watch you grow up from a child to a young lady now. Which is a bitweirdd, odd & sick if you ask me. Even if he is your "dad" , be careful, and Ipersonallyy would advise you NOT TO BE ALONE WITH HIM. Tell a trusted Female friend about whats going on or a relative. YOu never what can happen, I would hate for you to end up physically or sexually abused by this person - I knowthat'ss hard to think or imagine, BUT IT HAPPENS EVERYDAY. There are sick people out there, people who need help and just dont put your self in a situation like that.