My dad is always angry?
Topic: How to write a hate letter to your dad
July 24, 2019 / By Prunella Question:
I live with my dad, and just my dad (my mom passed away 3 years ago.)
He is a very nice man until he gets angry, which is a lot. He yells and swears and throws things (not at me) if I do anything even the slightest bit wrong. For example:
last night I was standing waiting to use the stove, and he asked me if I was using the microwave and I said "no..." because it wasn't a food item you would microwave. He FLIPPED out and threw the fork he was cooking with really hard at the wall and just walked away swearing about me as he walked away. And if I cry, he mocks me and makes me even more upset. This happens almost daily and I'm really getting worn out by it, and I really do try to do everything right. I love my dad a lot but I hate when he's angry.
Best Answers: My dad is always angry?
Mckayla | 10 days ago
:( sorry you are going through this, your dad is probably stressed out and has issues right now, but that isnt an excuse.
Write down how you feel in a letter, and write down EVERYTHING how scared and sad he makes you feel, how you tiptoe around the house so he wont get angry...everything, even if it becomes a really long letter.
It will be hard to start of writing but once you start its hard to stop.
Leave this letter in his room, put it on his pillow or something for him to find when he goes to sleep and you are already asleep and be sure to include how much you love him in the letter so he doesnt think he has turned you against him. Tell him you love him but....
Sign the letter with love aswell
Maybe he can go and speak to a councelor or something to learn to deal with his anger
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Originally Answered: I am so angry right now?
As the parent of a 17 year old daughter my first question is how well do your parents know the people you would be going with? It is hard for parents to come to grips with the idea of their daughter (or son) going so far away with someone they don't know well or are not sure about.
You have a well thought out question and if you were to approach your parent(s) in a mature way at a less stress time and present your case , as it were, much as you did on here, explaining how you would cover your school work etc., you may at least get them to listen to you.
Ask your prospective to host(s) to meet your parents in a pleasant, low key way. No pressure, just a friendly meeting.
I hope you have a Merry Christmas..
Wow, that's a tough situation. My dad gets really angry as well, although he doesn't throw things or mock me if I cry. (Crying doesn't help, though.) I used to yell back at him and that helped blow off steam, but it didn't solve anything -- far from it. When he's angry, I just try to be calm and be reasonable with him, because when you're completely unreasonably angry you can't argue with things that, well, make sense. Then, when he's in a nice mood again, try talking to him about his anger; maybe talk through it, give him tips on how he could be a little more easygoing, and just be nice about it. If that doesn't work, wait till he's being nice and ask him if he would consider enrolling in an anger management class and/or seeking other professional help, like therapy, because he's not just getting angry because he likes yelling.
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Don't listen to Brianna, your dad doesn't hate you....He's just going through though moments, he misses his wife "your mother" right now he is being a mom and a dad for you and it's not easy. You can do one thing though, when your father is very calm, go next to him and ask him if you can talk to him about something that's been bothering you and hurting you a lot. Explain to him how you feel when he gets angry and how scared you get. Explain to him that you miss mom too and wish she was there with you guys, tell him it's not your fault that things go the way they go and that you wish you could help him...Tell him that you need him more than anything on this earth, i really think that by talking a lot of things do get resolved. I really think you should pray for your mother and ask God to help you with your dad, God does the impossible there is nothing he cannot do, and if you really want your father to change for good, God is the only one who can help you with that.....God Bless You!!!
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There are two dynamics going on here. One is that he is still dealing with his grief and it does not seem as though he is dealing with it well. Another thing that may be bothering him is that he does not know how to deal with a teen. You need to get help. Talk to a counselor and/or a trusted family member and let them know what is going on. Your dad could be suffering from depression and he will need help to deal with it. You however, should not have to live in fear.
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Originally Answered: Would you be angry about this?
Hi there Rebekah. And sorry to hear about the situation you are in. It sounds very familiar to what my husband goes Thur with his brother minus the age difference. I deal with this too on a smaller scale with my sister. There are 13 years between she and I. We both get gifts from mom, but she always gets the better. I normally don't say anything. I guess its not my nature unless its hurting someone else I love.
In your case I think I would have to say something. I don't think its about the gifts or money with you. I have answered back and forth with you so much I think I know what you are trying to say. It's the idea. And it hurts. He is thinking about his 'new' family and not about you or your loved ones. He is hurting you and your loved ones. IF he could not afford it, thats one thing. But to give to others and not you/your loved ones is rude. Tell him you are hurt by this. Explain to him that its not the gifts you care about, but the idea that your family doesn't seem as important as his new family and this shows by his words and actions. If nothing comes of your talk with him and he doesn't seem to still care take a 'dad break'... Don't call for a while... don't go around for a bit. Maybe he will think then about the fact that he did hurt you?
I don't know... Just a suggestion. I take 'dad breaks' occasionally. It always works out. Good luck to you!!
P.S. One day late (wink ;) Think lots of baby dust for me... I will think good thoughts for you and your family, as always.